...I have a man space. 

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Whoever said "a man's home is his castle" didn't get it quite right. We might unclog the toilet when it overflows, mow the yard when the grass gets high, or even pay the mortgage once a month - But "castle"? That implies we get to do whatever we want in the house, and that's just not true. Anyone who has ever lived with a wife, kids, or live-in girlfriend can tell you that.  In fact, a more accurate adage might be, "A man's home is his castle until his significant other moves in." For it's then that men often lose control. Table saws and tools in the garage get crowded out by bicycles and soccer gear. Motorcycle posters are replaced by Impressionist art prints. Even the beloved leg lamp  may be banished. Before a man knows it, the only space he has left is a bedside table or the top of a dresser - just enough room for the contents of his pockets.


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Lately though, men have started to find freedom by reclaiming previously lost territory. Backyard sheds, spare bedrooms, unfinished attics, corners of the basement, old outbuildings, and brand pole barns  alike have all been taken over with a new found sense of purpose.


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I built my manspace within our 24' x 24' attached garage. Though it still looks very similar to a garage; it has a concrete floor and two large roll-up doors , what it does not have is a car within it.  It is now exclusively a man space; my workshop to be specific. Cast iron machinery, maple work benches, stacks of lumber, chisels and hand planes have replaced the spaces once reserved for the family vehicle, baby strollers, and boxes of christmas decor. The wet tire marks that used to cover the floor are now covered by sawdust. The once cold concrete slab is now warmed by the wood stove and a mingling odor of woodsmoke and whiskey fills the air. While it's certainly no bar room, it dutifully fulfills the purpose of providing a comfortable place to hang out with the fellas while discussing work over a glass of beer. Most importantly it is a space that is designated as mine own where I may do whatever I want, even if all I want is to casually exchange the drudgery of life for the feeling of a plane iron sliding across an oak slab.


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As a man in the market for a man space, you must make some decisions that are difficult. Often the decision made is not so difficult for you to come to terms with as it will be for your wife to come to terms with; some sly negotiation may be in order there. From my stand point, I presented the issue as: "I get the garage and she gets the whole rest of the house*". 
{*Except the bathroom in the morning and the living room on football sundays.} 



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Once you make it through negotiations, the rest is easy. Of course planning, budgeting, organizing, construction, and outfitting the space are all issues that can only be executed on a custom level pertaining to your decided upon space and the intended purpose of that space. It should be noted that Dreamcatcher Design+Build is steeped with knowledge of creating man spaces, it is after all our specialty and the reason for this blog. If you have a space you'd like to reclaim, don't hesitate to contact us so that we may provide you with the ammunition to approach the negotiation phase as well as consultation towards achieving your man space after your space is procured.

 





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